RESPONSE RECEIVED.
Your submission has been entered into the official record.
If you’re attending, or still deciding, everything you currently need to know is below.
This page will update as I get more responses and information, check back periodically.
THE BASICS
Where: Truckee, California (exact address will be sent closer to The Birthday)
When: October 9-11, 2026
Some folks are arriving on the 8th, most on the 9th.
Please plan on arriving no later than 6:00pm on the 9th.
The Birthday will begin at 7pm.
Saturday is the main event; plan for the full day to belong to The Birthday.
A highly planned, deeply unserious weekend built around games, meals, shared experiences, and the rare opportunity to get a lot of people I love from different corners of my life under one roof.
2. GETTING THERE
Everyone flying will be flying into Reno, and I’m currently planning coordinated transportation from the airport — likely a sprinter van depending on final headcount and arrival times.
Guests driving from Southern California are expected to carpool. Parking at the house is limited, and there’s no reason for 8 cars to make the exact same drive.
If you’re driving from somewhere other than Southern California, talk to me before making final plans so I can coordinate vehicles, parking, and arrival timing.
Final transportation assignments/details will be posted here once attendance is locked.
3. THE HOUSE & SLEEPING
The house is huge. The number of beds is not.
This weekend is part luxury mountain house, part grown-adult slumber party. Some people will have traditional beds; some will be sleeping in shared areas on couches, air mattresses, etc.
Couples will automatically be assigned to share a bed unless they’d rather join the slumber party (highly encouraged).
This section will be updated with exact assignments following everyone’s submission.
Traditional beds are limited. Guests who requested a guaranteed bed should expect a somewhat higher contribution toward the weekend; I’ll calculate that once attendance and sleeping demand are finalized. Accessibility/medical needs are obviously treated separately.
4. WHAT YOU’LL BE CONTRIBUTING
Final contributions will be calculated once attendance is locked. Nobody will be asked to pay more than the budget they already gave me earlier this year.
Contributions will help cover shared weekend expenses including food, transportation, games/activities, household supplies, decor, cleaning costs, and other group expenses. Whatever you pay to arrive (gas, flights) will be deducted from your total contribution.
People who request a guaranteed traditional bed should expect a higher contribution because those spaces are limited.
Individual contribution amounts will be sent after final RSVPs close on 9/8/2026. Payments will be due around 9/21/2026 (~two weeks before The Birthday).
real ones know
5. WHAT TO BRING
FOR THE WEEKEND
Normal clothes, toiletries, meds, chargers, etc.
FOR SATURDAY
Comfortable clothes and shoes you can actually move around in. There will be physical activities, but nobody needs specialized athletic equipment.
FOR SATURDAY EVENING
Bring one nice outfit for dinner on 10/10/2026.
Hot Tub!!! Swimsuit :)
Team identifiers and any other required nonsense will be provided
6. THE WEEKEND
Detailed schedule will be provided upon arrival on 10/9/2026.
FRIDAY - OPENING NIGHT
Arrival
Dinner
The Introductions
The Game
Unstructured evening/free-time
SATURDAY - THE BIRTHDAY
Breakfast
Morning Programming
Lunch
Afternoon Programming
Break/get ready
Nice dinner
The Conclusion
Free-time
SUNDAY - THE DEPARTURE
Breakfast
Cleanup/restoration
Depart fairly early
Saturday is intentionally planned from start to finish, with everyone participating. Specific games and activities are being kept secret. Instructions will be provided as necessary.
7. TERMS OF PARTICIPATION
Privacy rules remain in effect: no public posting, location tagging, sharing conversations, or distributing photos/video without explicit permission from the Birthday Boy.
Alcohol will be available, and you are welcome (and encouraged!) to bring your own. This is not a rager. Drink responsibly, remain in control of yourself, and obviously don’t drive (don’t know why you’d be driving anyway). We are incredibly lucky to be staying at this property and only pay a cleaning fee, so please respect the space and each other.
No smoking indoors (vaping… like whatever lol but respect that some people might not want to be sniped by a vape cloud so don’t be an asshole.) Outdoor smoking is dependent on if there are cameras on the property, if there are, I’d request smoking be done off-property on the road. Anything associated with smoking needs to be disposed of properly and discreetly.
More adult/off-book nighttime activities (I’m talking about drugs), if any, happen after scheduled programming has ended, are entirely optional, and nobody is expected or pressured to participate.
Do not bring cocaine. I will ask you to leave.
With quiet hours, exercise basic judgment and be respectful.
Do not become A Situation.
8. WHAT HAPPENS NEXT
SEPTEMBER 8
Final RSVP deadline (yes or no) for those who selected “I don’t know yet”
AS RSVPs COME IN
Sleeping and transportation assignments begin locking.
MID-SEPTEMBER
Individual weekend contributions confirmed.
SEPTEMBER 21-ish
Contributions due.
SEPTEMBER 25
Exact address & final transportation info distributed.
OCTOBER 9
The Birthday
If your attendance, transportation, dietary needs, or sleeping needs change after submitting your RSVP, tell me directly as soon as possible.